In this week’s episode, I tackle your questions regarding image, sex, and dating! Whether you are wondering what your partner desires in bed or you are looking for ways to handle rejection – this episode is full of valuable advice and insights. 

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In this week’s episode we discuss:

[01:30] Question 1: (Dan) – How important is confidence and how do I build it?

[03:35] Question 2: (Ron) – What are the signs that a date is going well?

[05:08] Question 3: (Josh) – How can I understand what my partner wants in bed?

[07:15] Question 4: (John) – What are effective ways to handle rejection?

[09:03] Question 5: (Jack) – How can technology enhance my dating life?

[11:11] Question 6: (Jim) – What are some myths around masculinity? 

[13:52] Question 7: (Matt) – How can I maintain a healthy relationship during stressful times?

[16:03] Question 8: (Noah) – How to keep the spark alive in a long-term relationship?

Question 1: (Dan) – How important is confidence and how do I build it?

Confidence is crucial because it makes you more attractive and helps you navigate dating more effectively. To build it, focus on your strengths, practice self-affirmation, and step outside of your comfort zone often. Start to dig into who your authentic self is. What matters to you? What are your beliefs, life goals, and values? When you get clear on these, you can be more confident in who you are. 

When you are your authentic self, you will attract the right person for you. If you meet someone and you are trying to be someone you are not, one day this heavy mask will fall off. Women love confidence and the woman for you will love who you are. Confidence is crucial and you can build this by knowing your worth because you are worthy of being exactly who you are. 

Question 2: (Ron) – What are the signs that a date is going well?

Many men are too nervous on a date to notice if it is going well or if she is into them. Paying attention to their body language is key. Is she making eye contact with you? Is she leaning in to pay attention to what you are saying? Does she have genuine smiles? Does the conversation flow naturally with both of you? Is there an ebb and a flow where you say something, and then she does? These are key indicators that the date is going well. Another great indication that a date went well is that you are already making plans for another date. 

Question 3: (Josh) – How can I understand what my partner wants in bed?

The first way to know what your partner wants in bed is communication. You can also start to notice the reaction that her body makes when you touch her. Is she leaning in or moaning when you are kissing, caressing, or touching her? She might tell you “I like that” which is a great indication that she likes what you are doing. 

You can also do a brief at the end of a sexual encounter. Ask them questions such as: “Did this work for you, I really wanted to try XYZ, how did this feel for you?” When you ask these questions about things you are unsure of, it gives her a space to express her needs and preferences freely. Make sure to ask open-ended questions and practice active listening. If she knows that you are really listening and understanding her, then you can gain deeper insights of her desires. 

Question 4: (John) – What are effective ways to handle rejection?

Rejection is not personal. You never know what the other person is going through and it really has nothing to do with you. Rejection is redirection. You do not want anyone to lie to you just to make you happy. These types of people are people pleasers and will say anything to avoid conflict. If someone rejects you, it is a great indicator that they are not the person for you. 

When you get rejected, stay positive and learn from each experience – do not be afraid to put yourself out there again. In business we say to get your first 100 no’s so that you can get used to rejection and not take it personally. Keep your head up, do not let your confidence waver, and do not let that ruin your ability to ask someone out again. And make sure to download the “How to win her over with confidence” freebie for support with rejection! 

Question 5: (Jack) – How can technology enhance my dating life?

I want to start by saying dating apps are great for so many reasons. When we get older, we just do not have the ability to be around a big pool of people at a time. Dating apps allow us to have a big group of people at our fingertips. It allows us to meet people that we may have never met otherwise. It allows you to filter potential matches and interests through your preferences which saves you time and effort.

Dating apps can be great but you have to use them strategically. You have to be clear on what you are looking for, your boundaries, your values, and your life goals. You do not have to have everything in common, like hobbies or friends, but keep an open mind. You can also leverage technology for creative date ideas including having fun virtual dates before meeting in real life.

Question 6: (Jim) – What are some myths around masculinity? 

Many people believe that being masculine means hiding vulnerability or emotions. This is not true. Vulnerability is a strength and when a woman sees a man being vulnerable in expressing his emotions, she knows that he trusts her. Authenticity and emotional openness attract more genuine connections. We can think someone is good looking but at the end of the day if you are not connecting in a deeper way, what is the point of dating? 

Another myth is that men should always make the first move. I truly believe in chivalry and this should be implemented in daily life, dating, and relationships. But women have the ability to make the move too. In an episode with Garin Flowers, he talked about how he loves when a woman is confident enough to make the first move. Modern dating is a collaborative and healthy situation for both parties. 

There are so many myths around masculinity and the way to redirect this is to change what we have learned and change what it looks like. There are a lot of men dedicated to this and I commend them for what they are doing. 

Question 7: (Matt) – How can I maintain a healthy relationship during stressful times?

We are all experiencing stress. Whether it is from work, home life, traveling, or everything going on in the world. There is so much hate and divide and it can be stressful. The most important part of maintaining a healthy relationship during stressful times is communication. Be honest with what you are experiencing and let your partner know how you feel. Check in with each other regularly because you might see it on their face but giving them a space to talk about something is important. 

Do not be afraid to tell your partner things that you may need extra help with at this time. Maintain a routine that includes quality time together but also make sure you each have space for yourselves. We all deal with stress in different ways and it is important to come together in partnership and also maintain your self-identity. If someone needs extra space during this time, do not take it personally. Support each others hobbies and interests, this can only strengthen your bond. It can be nice to go to the gym or meditate together where you can get out of the normal routine.

Question 8: (Noah) – How to keep the spark alive in a long-term relationship?

There are many ways to keep the spark alive in a long-term relationship. If you do not already have date nights scheduled, prioritize date nights and new activities. I was recently on a podcast and the host said that they had been married for 25 years. Even though they have a lot going on in their lives, they are each other’s top priority. Without this partnership, things can dissolve really quickly. When you do a new activity together, this creates a spark and strengthens your bond. These date nights will bring back this spark. 

Make sure to express appreciation for each other regularly. Even just small gestures can go a long way. If your partner likes words of affirmation, leave little notes or send sweet messages to her during the day. If they like physical touch, then intimacy is important and even just something like touching her back, spanking her ass in the kitchen, or a quick spontaneous makeout session can go a long way. We are often so intertwined with the normal routine of day-to-day life and something new will create a spark.

Keep exploring your physical and sexual desires with each other. Do not let the bedroom get boring. Try different locations, positions, sex toys, or dress up. It does not have to be crazy, it just depends on both of your desires. Have fun and play with each other because this will also strengthen your bond!


Talk Dirty To Me Q&A: Building Confidence, Handling Rejection, and Myths Around Masculinity

May 16, 2024