With Valentine’s Day right around the corner, it’s easy to feel the pressure of wanting to create the “perfect” day. So is Valentine’s Day really a celebration of love or is it a boner killer? In this solo episode, I’m diving into the unrealistic expectations around Valentine’s Day, why going to your favorite steakhouse can have an impact on your sexual performance, and ways that you can spend Valentine’s Day instead.

You’re not going to want to miss this episode so tune in and then drop the pressure and perfectionism around Valentine’s Day!

In this week’s episode we discuss:

[01:39] Is Valentine’s Day a boner killer?

[04:08] The unrealistic expectations of Valentine’s Day

[08:20] The pressure on singles to celebrate Valentine’s Day

[09:19] Alternative ways to celebrate Valentine’s Day

Is Valentine’s Day a boner killer?

I want you to think about this question: Is Valentine’s Day a celebration of love? Or is it a boner killer? We usually relate Valentine’s Day with hot lingerie and sex but it is definitely over-commercialized and has unrealistic expectations. Both Dr. Judson Brandeis and Brian Ayers have talked about the health and wellness of a man’s body and the ability to have long-lasting hard on’s. This depends on your physiology, the foods you eat, the exercise you get, and as we age, this creeps up. 

When you are showing up sexually, you want to be the best version of yourself and Valentine’s Day is the perfect storm for your dick to go limp. If you go to a steakhouse and get a steak, some alcohol, and a dessert, all of these things are bad for hardons. So before you plan the date, think about other ways to make Valentine’s Day hot and sexy. 

The unrealistic expectations of Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is typically a day to celebrate with your love and show them your love by purchasing chocolates, flowers, taking them to dinner, having some wine, buying teddy bears, lingerie, and so many other things. It has evolved to be so highly commercialized and it can feel like there are unreal expectations around it. Remember that this day is just about showing the person you care and that can be in many different ways. 

It is so difficult to get a reservation anywhere and when you do, there are so many people and everything is double the price. I once had a Valentine’s Day with a partner who wanted to create the perfect day. Things did not go right and his mood was completely ruined. He was angry and that made me so angry that he was being childish. At the end of the night, no one got laid and no one was happy. Stop putting the pressures and expectations on what it should be. Plan the dates but then step back and let things happen.

The pressure on singles to celebrate Valentine’s Day

There is a lot of pressure on singles to find a date just to celebrate Valentine’s Day. Instead, you can go to other events, hang out with your friends, or spend some quality time with yourself. I have been single for a long time and I have had many great Valentine’s Days with my daughter and with friends. You do not have to have the perfect celebration and you do not have to celebrate at all!

Alternative ways to celebrate Valentine’s Day

There are many ways to celebrate Valentine’s Day. One idea is to make a meal at home together. You can put your love into it and it will be a bonding experience. If you decide to go out for dinner, eat plant-based for the night with a lot of vegetables and do not drink alcohol. You can also take a picnic, go watch the sunset, and celebrate in intimate ways other than at a dinner in a noisy restaurant with high prices. You can go do fun activities or even just snuggle and watch a movie together. Take the pressure off of Valentine’s Day and celebrate your love. 

Remember to start thinking critically, when it comes to certain days that have high expectations. Think about what truly matters in your relationship and focus on those things. That is what is going to strengthen the bond between you. Celebrate love because it is a beautiful thing and if you have not found it yet, keep working on yourself. Love yourself first and then you will attract that person in.