The world has shifted men and is full of strong, independent women. Some men see this as a negative trait and want women who will “submit” to them. What this really means is that you want a woman who will trust you and appreciate you. A strong independent woman will “submit” or be comfortable in her feminine energy as long as you are a man who is treating her right. 

Let me give you a little insight into what women’s turn-offs are in dating and relationships.  

Being emotionally unavailable- Women have done all the emotional labor in relationships for centuries. But now, men are being held accountable and need to help give emotional support. What I mean by this is men need to be ok with hearing how a woman feels and NOT dismissing her. If you say “you’re just being sensitive” it won’t help anyone and will just make her feel detached from you. Listen to her feelings and do not make her feel crazy. 

Stop having fun- It’s ok to have dates that include dinner and a quiet night in, but if you stop doing fun activities then the spark could fizzle away. Dating should be fun, and if you aren’t laughing and enjoying the other person’s company then it won’t last. Bonus points if you have a plan, men. Women want men who can take charge and plan out a well thought evening.  

Being disrespectful- I mean don’t be disrespectful to anyone. If you are being rude to her she will immediately be turned off, and probably walk away. She will even be turned off if you are rude to servers, coworkers, or anyone in general. Be a gentleman…always.

Being insecure-  Being confident in who you are and what you want out of life will be a big turn-on for her. If you put yourself down or feel not good enough this will come across in how you act around her. Don’t be afraid of your shortcomings and be willing to work on them as well. Personal growth at any age is important.  

Ignore her/talk over her- I have to make this one a combo because they’re one and the same. Don’t ignore her thoughts, opinions, or words, she knows her worth and wants to know that you do too. It’s ok not to agree with what she’s saying or thinking but don’t just ignore her or talk over her. She will lose interest really fast. 

This is all a long-winded way of saying, be respectful of her and be a proper gentleman. Be someone she can trust and wants to talk to every day. Dating and relationships take effort from both people, it’s not all about the flowers, candy, and dinner dates. But that also doesn’t hurt. 

If you want to learn ways to boost your confidence then check out this blog post: 5 Ways to Boost your Confidence