Now that we are in a digital age, many of us find love through dating apps and chat in text messages, it is more important than ever to be sure we communicate effectively. One thing you can do when you get into a new relationship is to learn about each other love language.

Theoretically, there are 5 love languages. You will need a combination of all of them but many of us prefer one over another. Here is the list:

• Words of affirmation
• Quality time
• Receiving gifts
• Acts of service
• Physical touch

Even though it’s important to learn your partner’s love language it may even be more important to know your own. Don’t worry, if you don’t know yours I can share the link to an online quiz so you can figure that out. Take Quiz Here. Understanding this will tell you how you like to receive love.

This isn’t just for the ladies, both men and women have needs. So learn your love languages guys. I promise it will make all the difference.

When you know what you want you can clearly communicate that to your partner so they know what you need from them. This will help deepen your connection and improve your relationship. And I mean all areas of your relationship.   

Having this conversation early can help lessen the number of arguments you have. Many couples don’t feel appreciated in their relationship and arguments start with “Why don’t you do (blank) for me…? Talking about how you need to be loved upfront will let your partner know how to make you feel special and valued.   

Knowing your partner’s love language can also improve your sex life. If you and your partner both feel seen, heard, and valued in a relationship imagine all the hot steamy sex you’ll have. I am not trying to be crude but having your needs met will in turn make you both more aroused. There won’t be any resentful feelings or anger between you both because you already know what the other one needs.

Plus you can have fun with it. Remember your partner’s love language in the bedroom as well. Words of affirmation can turn into fun dirty talk, receiving gifts is a good time to purchase lingerie for your partner,  physical touch….well you can use your imagination with that one. 

I should also say that just because your partner’s love language may be quality time, don’t forget to give them attention in the other love languages as well. If your partner’s love language is quality time give that to them but don’t neglect the other areas. They are still an important component of the overall relationship.   

The point is to communicate. Talk, listen, be open, and show up for each other. You will both feel appreciated in the relationship which will only your bond that much stronger. If you want to keep learning about this, keep an eye on my social media accounts, there may be more to come soon. 

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