Struggling with Modern Dating? Tune in! In this week’s episode, I break down modern dating struggles including the impact of the digital age on dating, why quality over quantity matters, the shift in gender roles, and separating your career and personal identities. This is a great listen for anyone who wants to improve their dating life to find their person (or persons).

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In this week’s episode we discuss:

[03:25] The first issue in modern dating – The change in social norms & online dating

[05:34] The second issue in modern dating – The shift in relationship dynamics & gender roles

[09:07] The third issue in modern dating – Time constraints & efficiency 

[11:33] Prioritizing the things that matter to you

[13:25] Implementing tools and setting goals to improve your dating life

[15:24] How do we integrate a satisfying personal life and a romantic life?

[17:11] The fourth issue in modern dating – Career identity and personal identity

[19:19] What you can expect in future solo episodes

The first issue in modern dating – The change in social norms & online dating

One of the first things that I find that people are struggling with is the change in social norms which includes online dating. If you have been in a relationship and met your partner before digital dating, you might be wondering how to navigate it. This is one of my specialties and I can help you strategically create a profile with great photos and a great bio. Learn more about the ways I can help you here!

The second issue in modern dating – The shift in relationship dynamics & gender roles

Another struggle I see in modern dating is the shift in relationship dynamics. There is a growing acceptance of relationship formats like non monogamy and even the acceptance of people getting married later in life. If you have been focused on your career all of your life and you are now 50 years old and want to find your partner, you have to start doing the work and putting yourself out there. They are not going to just fall on your lap. 

The evolution of gender roles has also changed dating and women have been vocal about how we can do everything and do not need anyone else. This leaves men confused and they are wondering where they can fit into our lives. I am here to tell women that while we are amazing and can do everything, we still need to allow men to have a role. Men are wired to be in their masculine so let him plan dates, open the door for you, and allow yourself to be in the moment of surrender. I do not mean to give up yourself or your boundaries but allow him to have a purpose. When you have both the masculine and feminine in a relationship, there’s a beautiful dance. 

If a woman is desiring or in a heterosexual relationship, she still wants to be provided for. I do not just mean financially I also mean she wants to be provided a space of vulnerability and a space where she can fully be in her feminine. A man in his masculine can support this.

The third issue in modern dating – Time constraints & efficiency 

Another big issue in modern dating is time constraints, which can mean a few different things. We all have busy professional lives. Some of us run businesses, some of us run multiple businesses, and some of us just work crazy hours. Dating requires a lot of time and effort so you have to figure out how to balance your professional and personal life. I always hear people say “I don’t have time.” But you always make time for things that matter to you. You have to look deep inside and ask yourself if you really want to date and have a relationship. 

I also feel that many people have an issue with quality versus quantity. There are a lot of places to meet a partner but that does not mean you are going to find quality. When you are on a dating app, if there are 100 potential partners, take the time to read their bio and ask yourself if they align with who you are and what you want in a relationship. When you get crystal clear on what you want, then you will waste less time and energy on dating. 

Prioritizing the things that matter to you

I suggest to stop and think about what matters to you and then prioritize those things. This is an exciting time in your life because you get to decide what you want. You aren’t at the age where you are inexperienced so you get to have the relationship that you ultimately desire. I want to remind you that you get to be the captain of your ship. You get to direct how you want to show up and who you want in your life. That should feel empowering. 

Implementing tools and setting goals to improve your dating life

The clients who come to me are usually insecure. They do not know how to talk or put themselves out there because it is scary. They have either not done it in a long time or they keep getting the results that they do not want. We have to stop in the midst of the crazy, break everything down, and figure out why this is happening. I am here to tell you that you can have everything that you desire – you just have to change your mindset, work on your limiting beliefs, and put out what you want into the universe.

This takes work but at the end of it, you will feel empowered, confident, and so sure that you will get to be with your person. It might take you a few dates or people but trust me, if you have a goal, a direction, and the tools then you will get there. You do not have to keep holding onto the same patterns that aren’t working for you.

How do we integrate a satisfying personal life and a romantic life?

I think a lot of people get scared of integrating their personal lives and romantic lives. They want to still be able to do their hobbies and take care of themselves and aren’t sure where a romantic relationship fits in. You have to ask yourself how badly you want an amazing beautiful relationship. There are so many things we can get from relationships like intimacy, great sex, having someone who is there for you when you come home, and so much more. We all have the stress and burnout of life and we have to figure out how we can deal with that and not let it affect our romantic lives. It is possible to integrate both. 

The fourth issue in modern dating – Career identity and personal identity

The last issue that I see in modern dating is not being able to separate your career identity and personal identity. For example: One of my clients is a well-renowned surgeon. And because of his specialty, he has been living and breathing surgery for so many years. When he started to date, he found that he was bringing the same verbal and nonverbal communication to his relationship, and it wasn’t working. 

When you have such a committed job, profession, or business, it may be hard to shut off while dating but you have to learn to do so. It is very important for us to be proud of where we have come from but this cannot be the sole definition of who you are.

What you can expect in future solo episodes

Within the next 3-4 solo episodes, I am going to put a pause on “Talk Dirty to Me” until I receive some questions that I have not talked about yet. I love talking about anything sex-related, taboo, awkward dates, nothing is off limits! Make sure to send me a message with your questions on Instagram @celestemooreimage so that I can help you on a future episode.