In this week’s episode, I tackle your questions regarding image, sex and dating! I answer three questions about what may be causing a woman to experience pain during sex, the stories that may create blow job anxiety and a couple reasons why a listener is getting ghosted! 

Please tell us your thoughts about the Q&A over on Instagram @celestemooreimage, and look forward to more of these in the future!

In this week’s episode we discuss:

[1:40] Question 1: (Quinn) – My girlfriend is in pain during sex, what should I do?

[6:12] Question 2: (Jared) – I can’t tell if my partner likes giving me oral sex or not and it’s giving me anxiety.

[9:45] Question 3: (Derek)- What am I doing wrong? After the first or second date I am continually getting ghosted?

Question 1: (Quinn) – My girlfriend is in pain during sex, what should I do? 

Thank you for sharing these personal questions with me and I want you to know I am not a doctor or licensed therapist. My answers come from personal and client experiences. 

This could be from a variety of reasons such as endometriosis, her cervix could be backwards and uncomfortable in certain positions. Your penis could be too big for her, her vagina could be a bit more dry then normal or she could be swollen around her menstrual cycle. 

Some solutions for this could be: oral pleasure, watching each other masturbate or manually get each other off. Toys are always an option, focusing on her clirotis or looking into anal sex. 

I would slow down, try different positions that might work better for her and communicate during sex as much as possible. Also, it never hurts to use a lubricant and if it still continues to hurt she might need to consult a professional sooner rather than later. 

[6:12] Question 2: (Jared) – I can’t tell if my partner likes giving me oral sex or not and it’s giving me anxiety? 

Getting to the root of why this is giving you anxiety is a very important part of this and I also have some other ideas along with that. 

I would recommend asking yourself what story you are telling yourself and looking into past sexual experiences you’ve had to create this idea. I would recommend flipping the script about this and convincing yourself that she loves to give you head. 

Maybe you are insecure about your penis? A lot of men have insecurities around the size of their dick and this patriarchal idea has got to stop because most women don’t want huge dicks anyway!  

[9:45] Question 3: (Derek)- What am I doing wrong? After the first or second date I am continually getting ghosted?

There could be many reasons why you’re getting ghosted but until you know you’re underlying patterns then this is just guess work.

Are you coming off too strong? If you find yourself a bit too eager you may be creating some red flags for your date and I would recommend letting the experience happen more naturally. This means taking it slow even if she is super hot because we do not want to get love bombed. 

Next, are you showing up for the date looking like a schlub? No matter what in any situation you should always put your best foot forward and groom yourself. 

Keep in mind, body language is huge and never lies. Be interested, and use your eye contact and make sure to also not overshare about your past. 

Also, did you allow her to speak or did you let nervousness take over? Be mindful of this because you want to make her feel important too. 

Lastly, were you a gentleman? Look back on the dates and notice if you were rude to anyone or a server. Being polite and respectful are traits of a high quality man and that is something we want.

This problem could be much more simple but looking at your recurring patterns will lead you to your answer.