In this week’s episode, I tackle your questions regarding image, sex and dating! I answer four questions about communication, group sex, kinks and how to bring the five love languages into your relationship, this is a must listen! 

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In this week’s episode we discuss: 

[1:36] Question 1 (Alan): What to do when your partner will not listen to your challenges or stories? 

[3:40] Question 2 (Brian): What do you do when your partner wants to have group sex but you don’t? 

[5:33] Question 3 (David): How do you bring up a taboo kink to a partner? 

[9:20] Question 4 (Chris): What are the best ways to understand your partner’s love language? 

Question 1 (Alan): What to do when your partner will not listen to your challenges or stories? 

It sounds like the current way you guys navigate communication is not working in this relationship. Communication is one of the staples of a successful relationship and it could be a deal breaker. I feel it’s also important to consider if there are other problems in this relationship that need to be addressed. I would recommend seeking a therapist or counselor to work through this dynamic and see what the underlying issues are, if any. 

Question 2 (Brian): What do you do when your partner wants to have group sex but you don’t? 

Unfortunately this could be a deal breaker in a relationship. If your partner is dead set on doing this no matter what you feel then you have to decide if you want to stay or leave. 

Also I want to know if this has ever been brought up in the relationship prior and how long the relationship has been going on for? If this has been brought up before and you have decided to stay you have to take some accountability for that. There’s also a choice to make if you want them to do this on their own and you have zero participation. Maybe you are also seeing a therapist to navigate this especially if you really love this person. This is your call. 

Question 3 (David): How do you bring up a taboo kink to a partner? 

I want to clarify that kinks are not taboo unless they are unacceptable behaviors related to animals or children. 

Bringing this up to a new partner could be challenging but it can be really simple too. I recommend finding a kink community in your area and finding someone in that community so it’s not taboo for them. 

If the person you’re interested in is not in the community, it starts with trust and safety for you. Everyone has their unique desires and needs and when this is brought up you need to make sure you feel comfortable to talk about it. 

I also recommend bringing in some books or porn to help them learn and also to set some rules and boundaries for yourself while you’re navigating this together. Also never be afraid to ask questions, the more the better. 

I think you should also avoid any alcohol or drugs so that you are not blurring reality. Make sure to have fun, enjoy each other and make sure to communicate. 

Question 4 (Chris): What are the best ways to understand your partner’s love language? 

I highly recommend you take the Love Language Quiz online. You can test out every single love language together and make it a different date night. For example, with physical touch do an activity such as salsa or dance. With words of affirmation, tell them in a special way that you desire them or appreciate them such as a poem. With acts of service, do something for them without them knowing to make their life easier. Quality time can be shown by planning a date around their favorite activities and making sure to not be distracted. 

Podcast

Talk Dirty To Me Q&A: Communication with Your Partner, Group Sex, Kinks & Navigating the 5 Love Languages in Relationship

February 27, 2023